I have been debating with myself about whether or not I should talk about this particular comment and how I should approach it, as I am a woman and may not be taken seriously on the matter. I hope you will lend me a few moments of your time. Understand that my intention is as a mother to her children, a sibling to a sibling or a friend to a friend.
If you have arrived at this article with the unspoken notion that you will find Political Correctness, you are sorely mistaken and I suggest you ignore and leave. If you are still reading…welcome to reality.
“Women are the n-word of the world.”
These words were written by 1970s songwriters, John Lennon and Yoko Ono. It was originally about women who had come out of a repression by both men and our government.
Today, women can be found openly stating their minds, writing articles, singing about sexual innuendos, earning an unlimited amount of money, walking the streets (in protest) half naked and much more.
Let me tell you about women’s suffrage today. It is happening, but it is happening in countries like, Turkey. American women do not know what it is like to be forced to
go to a grocery store without a chaperon or to be forced to have multiple witnesses (that physically saw the attack) during a rape trial, in order to be believed. Those naked protesters do not realize that they could not reveal themselves in a public place within most countries on Earth. They do not know what it is like to be forced to either shut their mouths or be stoned or beaten to death in the streets.
No. Today’s American women do not know what it is like to be actual slaves, living in 2018. Our freedoms allow us to express ourselves whenever, however and wherever we choose to do so. So to hear an American woman, who knows these realities of actual oppressed women, make an attempt to manipulate us by telling us we are slaves to men is preposterous.
On Wednesday, October the 4th, songstress Bette Midler tweeted a rather controversial comment which set the public into an uproar. She wrote:
“‘Women, are the n-word of the world.’
Raped, beaten, enslaved, married off, worked like dumb animals; denied education and inheritance, enduring the pain and danger of childbirth and life IN SILENCE for THOUSANDS of years. They are the most disrespected creatures on earth.”
After backlash was unleashed, Midler did release an apology, but the apology was about the “N-word” being offensive and racist, which it is. The necessity of that apology goes without saying but she also failed to bring focus to her generalization of women within the above statement. I am empathetic to women of ALL races when I say that, as a woman I am appalled by the notion that a wife, a mother, a provider and an educated woman are told that they are enslaved by men. We are not.
Rape and abuse are one thing but do not put those atrocities inside the same box as my choice to marry, have children, attend higher education, work as hard as any man in order to acquire what I want or need.
It is a decision to bear any of those previously mentioned titles, and to many of us, the titles are our badges of honor. Whether we are in the military, the workforce, seeking education, having children or becoming wives…these are our decisions to make for ourselves. It is an achievement. When I think about that, I think about how many jobs I have gotten, based on the simple fact that I was a wife and a mother.
In fact, the whole reason that I was capable of getting a career in healthcare was based on the simple fact that I was an actress, a therapist, a housekeeper, a chauffeur, a cook, a launderer, a costume designer, a seamstress, a personal
assistant to multiple people (the list goes on) for 13 years and a tutor for 8 of those 13 years. Technically mothers and wives are overqualified for most jobs.
So to hear someone say that I am the “n-word” of the world is a preposterous analogy and I will not buy into that lie. Women in the US today are incomparable to those women, men and children who suffered and still suffer from actual slavery.
The truth is, in the United States, women have the same potential as men. We only need to learn how apply ourselves correctly without making the assumption that the world owes us whatever it is we are asking for; such as a job, groceries, etc.
We have been blessed, as women of the United States, with freedom to be whoever we are and that will not be removed. So, instead of causing division, let us work together to create an America that is proud of who she is and the freedoms she has been given.
By Patricia King